The True Love Theory

A match made in heaven. Soulmates. Love at first sight. Idioms branches throughout the world from these notions that for every people, there’s another person that is perfect, suited to them and only them, and they will live happily ever after until their inevitable death. Everyone looks for this kind of love. Some believe it with all their heart, only to end up alone, after failing to find “the one”.

The theory

They do not exist. That special someone, your missing puzzle piece, the one that complete you, does not exists then, now or in any foreseeable future. Imagine this, how likely it is for someone to grow up like you do, experienced the same exact experience as you, like and dislike the same things as you do. One in a trillion chance I say. Everyone is different. Even as little as, once in their life they killed an ant, everyone is different in their own way, no one is the same, no one is ever made for you and specifically you.

Some may search for this “soulmate” is only because they are scared. They are scared they're as dry as dust, and they will bore their partner if they can’t relate to anything with each other. They are scared they are alone, whenever they're together. If you ever think this way, you are right. You are dull. To add to that, your partner is already bored with you and god knows what are the reason that made them stay.

The aftermath

The idea of a perfect partner exists to separate us from the animals. Animals don’t care about the “personality” of their partner. The only reason they look for another sexes is only to mate, survivability of their species. They don’t understand the idea of “true love”. We perceive ourselves better than them, top of the food chain.

We’re not. You never like someone for their “personality”. Just like the animals, you went to approach the opposite gender is purely based on physical appearance. Whether it be the looks, voice, height, etc., personality was never the first.

Conclusion

True love does not exist, at least not yet. Once you found that one who matches your physical preferences, you dig through to see if there’s more to this person than meets the eye. If there is, you will learn to love them, but not by a whole lot because that kind of relationship, the one that you rushed, is only going to end up tragic for both. After you’re sure they’re the one you’ve been looking for all this time, you will love that person wholeheartedly. You nurture that love until it blossoms into something beautiful, something pure, something true.

Your soulmate is not born, your soulmate is created, by you. You’ll find someone that even at your worst, they’ll stay. They’ll stay because at that point of your relationship, they’re still think you’re the best. They can only see the good in you, regardless the bad that you done. That’s the objective of the love that you embedded throughout your relationship. To let your partner, see the real you, that side of you that no one ever know, the side of you that you kept away, the side of you that impossible to be attracted to at first sight, and they appreciate all of that, appreciated enough to make them stay. Forever and a day.